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image001Be ConfidentA person’s overall appearance is more than outfits, hair, and make up. The secret to being beautiful is made up of several different factors, which all contribute to a person’s overall appearance or true beauty. These characteristics make up inner beauty, and they are confidence, kindness, and being positive. The best part is that you can access this inner beauty right now without spending a dime.

Everyone has something that they are good at doing. The best way to figure out what talents you have is to look at your hobbies. Do you enjoy singing or playing a certain sport? Maybe you spend your time reading and have a large vocabulary or creative imagination. Most of the time, people are good at doing the things they enjoy, so start your evaluation there. You have multiple talents, so start making a list and refer to it when you need it.

Another method to build confidence is to try new things. This gives you a chance to find more activities you are good at and more hobbies. New activities can also help you stretch your comfort zone a little. New experiences can boost endorphin levels and help you realize how strong and capable you are in different situations. Take the extra time to figure out what you are good at and feel confident in yourself.

Choose to Help Others

One of the most ironic situations is when a person goes to help someone else, it seems they receive more in return. When you help others, you feel good inside because you know that you are making a difference. Take your strengths and talents and put them to good use. Tutor, teach, or become a mentor in an area where you are comfortable.

Helping others doesn’t have to take a lot of time. Even small acts, like saying hello to someone you pass on the sidewalk, giving a compliment, dropping a quarter in a performer’s guitar case, or returning an item someone has dropped all contribute to this feeling. When you feel great on the inside, it shows on your outward appearance, bringing light to your entire countenance.

Keep a Positive Attitude

A smile can change the entire appearance of someone’s face. When happiness radiates from a person, they draw other positive people and things into their life. Find a way to start your day off right and focus on the positive things in your life. Post a quote on the bathroom mirror, smile at yourself in the mirror for twenty seconds, or find time to meditate before starting your day. At the very least, think of all the great things in your life. Think of these things through the day and remember to smile. Positive, happy people are the most beautiful.

An extension to a positive attitude is to talk positive about yourself. The things you say about yourself matters more than you think. Tell yourself you are beautiful, smart, and have value. Say these things out loud to stimulate the auditory portion of your brain. When you do this, you literally hear these things about yourself and they make a bigger impression. You are already beautiful and sometimes you just need to hear it.

Be Your Biggest Fan

While it’s nice to have a fan club, what matters most is that you are the president. You are a wonderful, beautiful person and treating yourself as such helps reinforce all of the positive building you do. All of these suggestions are like a scaffolding to inner beauty. Once you start doing all of these things, they become second nature and you become stronger and more confident. Together, these all add to your inner beauty and will help you feel more beautiful, starting right now.

Written by: Center for Change